I'd like to introduce you to Natalie Wester, our guest in the Solo Traveler Insiders Speaker Series on September 15th. Natalie's stories of midlife transformation, leaping into the unknown, and the lessons that solo travel can offer are inspiring. King recently interviewed Natalie to find out more.
Courage isn’t the absence of fear, it’s simply finding the strength to do something even though you’re afraid. Natalie Wester is a great example of this as a first-time solo traveler who dove into the deep end, embarking on an ambitious 70-day round-the-world solo journey. Now an international solo traveler and blogger, Natalie inspires women over 50 with unfiltered stories of personal transformation on her blog, The Hot Goddess.
Tell us a bit about your life prior to taking this epic solo trip.
I’m a retired second-grade reading teacher who once stood with the President of the United States in the Oval Office of the White House as a state Teacher of the Year. Teaching was my second career for 14 years. Prior to that, I’d spent more than two decades in business, including as a company Vice President and then 14 years running my own consulting practice. I hadn’t planned on switching careers. I went back to school to get a second master’s degree because I wanted to understand how children learn to read after my son was diagnosed with dyslexia. The decision to take a pay cut of more than 60 percent to become a teacher was not something I considered until I was offered a position in a school serving a significant number of at-risk children.
You've had an amazing transformation and adventure since you retired in 2019 to travel the world and pursue your passions. What led you to make that decision?
I say I finally gave myself permission to be happy and choose to change the life I was living so I could live a life I love. Like many big changes, the catalyst for my transformation—my reimagined midlife—was loss. The death of my father and the ending of a long-term romantic relationship the same year led me to the decision to retire early, at 59. When I received a cash retirement incentive payment, that got me thinking about travel. It started with wanting to see Portugal after reading it was an inexpensive place to live for ex-pat retirees. Then my list grew, and I settled on travel from the USA to Portugal, Morocco, Egypt, Thailand, Indonesia, and Japan. At one point the list also included UAE, South Africa, India, Australia, and New Zealand, but financial realities quickly winnowed that list. It was a good thing, too, or I would have been stranded overseas when COVID-19 lockdowns were beginning. I returned home before Christmas, in December 2019, when we were just starting to hear about COVID.
How did your previous career and life experience prepare you for solo travel?
I had traveled internationally many times – France, Italy, Ireland, Iceland, Amsterdam, Switzerland, Germany, Hungary, Austria, Czech Republic, Slovakia, Spain, Mexico, Canada – but always with someone, never alone. This around-the-world journey in midlife was my first time as a solo traveler. Other than knowing how to pack light (I took only one carry-on bag for my 70-day trip) and having that super-prepared teacher-on-a-field-trip mindset, nothing really prepared me for solo travel.
I have to say I was terrified the night before I was to depart. Panic set in. I am afraid of flying, afraid of heights, and afraid of getting lost. I almost canceled the trip the night before I was to leave. I had to talk to myself to take the first step of just getting to Portugal. I told myself I could then cancel the rest of the trip after I got to my first destination. It was a little bargain I made with myself to manage my fear. Knowing I had an out helped me find the courage to just begin. I didn’t end up needing to use that out.
What is the most important thing you learned about yourself on your round-the-world trip?
I learned I had the courage and ability to do the entire trip all by myself. I learned that I can figure out how to pivot and adapt to the unexpected. I learned that I can get lost and still be okay. And I learned that I can be afraid and act anyway.
I was looking to jettison deep sadness and disappointment, and to lose some invisible baggage I'd been carrying around to my detriment. My solo trip helped me do just that. That first solo journey was the most empowering experience of my life, so far. It was the stepping-stone to a reimagined life back home – a life filled with joy and curiosity and the courage to take risks and try things I've never done before. In some ways, perhaps you could say my solo trip saved my life by showing me I had the strength to invent a new life for myself.
As solo travelers, we often find that locals will help us along the way. Can you share a story of the kindness of strangers you encountered on your journey?
I met so many kind strangers, some of whom have become friends.
A restaurant owner re-opened her kitchen to personally cook me dinner when I arrived after the restaurant had closed on my first day in Sesimbra, Portugal.
A Portuguese Uber driver drove out of the way, on his own dime, to go to a pastry shop in Azeitao so he could treat me to his favorite Ovos Mole egg yolk pastry.
A Berber employee at the riad where I stayed in Marrakesh walked me through the maze of alleys in the old medina to a restaurant he'd suggested. This riad was out of the way, Google Maps did not work, and I was always getting lost. He knew I wouldn't be able to find the restaurant. He actually laughed when I said I'd try to find it. “No. No. Not you. No.” When we got there, I inquired about the proximity of nearby bank ATMs. He shook his head, reached into his pants pocket, and pulled out his own money for me to take. I refused but he insisted, telling me I could give it back to him later.
What is one piece of advice you would offer to someone contemplating embarking on their first solo trip?
If you are afraid to do something you’ve never done before, just take the first, single, small step. I did not start small, with 70 days and 6 countries, but I gave myself just one small goal to start – get on the plane to Portugal. Starting with a short solo journey to just one country is a good introduction or going solo to a domestic destination before trying it alone internationally. Another option for first-timers is to go with a tour group of solo travelers.
In our September 15th edition of the Solo Traveler Insiders Speaker Series, Natalie will tell us how she kept total lodging, meals, and ground expenses to an average of less than $50 a day, without staying in hostels; how traveling around the world for 70 days as a first-time solo traveler before her 60th birthday helped her find her bold voice, process loss, and start a new chapter of life; and much more. To participate in our virtual chat with Natalie and ask her your own questions, join the Solo Traveler Insiders here. You can try it out for a month with no obligation to continue if it's not for you.
Speaker Profile: Jodie Burnham
Jodie Burnham was our guest for the Solo Traveler Insiders Speaker Series in August. When you become an Insider you will receive access to video recordings of this and all our previous speaker sessions.
Let me introduce you to Jodie Burnham, our guest in the Solo Traveler Insiders Speaker Series on August 11th. After a devastating financial loss in the middle east, Jodie and her wife made a life-changing decision to not return to Australia. Instead, they started a whole new life as digital nomads, choosing house-sitting as the ultimate travel hack. For the last 8½ years their cost of living has been reduced to 70% less than the cost of living in a fixed location. They see no end to this freedom lifestyle and own nothing more than the 50 pounds worth of luggage they carry.
Jodie is the co-author of International Housesitting: How to Travel the World and Stay Anywhere for Free and co-founder of the International House Sitting Academy. On August 11th, she will share her story along with tips and advice for solo travelers who want to explore the world of international house-sitting. I recently interviewed Jodie to find out more about her extraordinary story.
I understand you’ve been house-sitting continuously for a number of years now. Most of us go off traveling for periods of time, then return home. Tell us a bit about what it is like to not have a consistent home base.
Yes, it’s been over 8½ years of virtually full-time international house sitting. We actually left Australia in 2011 and became residents of the UAE in Dubai for 16 months and when we cancelled that residency visa, we officially become residents of nowhere. Still citizens of Australia with Aussie passports, but no longer residents of anywhere. It’s really quite a freeing feeling that is not for everyone, I know, but it suits my DNA down to the ground!
The only real issue of not having a home base comes with how the world seemingly decided a while back that you are not a real person unless you have a home address. This does cause a few problems when opening up accounts for various things, but there’s always a workaround. The best part of not having a home base is getting to be stewards of other peoples’ homes and possessions. No longer owning or storing stuff feels like a way for us to have a lighter footprint on the planet.
For many of us, the last year and a half have involved very little (or no) travel. Did you have house sits all the way through the pandemic?
We were house-sitting in Montreal at the start of lockdown and knew we had to get out quick. Mexico was the best option due to the fact that they offer a 6-month tourist visa, so it made sense to ride out what we thought might be 6 months (wishful thinking) in one affordable location. The thought was, if we needed to rent, Mexico would be the place to do it.
We arrived in late March to take over a 10-day house sit from some friends who had to get back to Canada. This was extended to a 2-month sit. That was followed by a 5-month beachfront sit 20 miles north of Cabo San Lucas.
There was a one-week gap in between, so we drove to Puerto Vallarta and had a very different experience of what is normally a bustling tourist town. Pretty much everything was closed. Thankfully, the Mexican government offered a 6-month humanitarian visa extension, so we headed from the beach back to a familiar city in the mountains to rent for a couple of months. That led to helping out with many house-sits over the end-of-year holiday period.
Then, in January & February, loads of expats were heading to the United States for their vaccinations, so again, there were plenty of house sits to choose from. Right now, we’re on a 6-month long house sit in Guanajuato which will end mid-September. Our visa has expired but all advice has been to not worry about it. There may just be a small fine upon departure.
How many house-sits have you completed now? In how many countries?
We have done 79 house-sits across 22 Countries in 8½ years.
I suspect it’s not just about a beautiful home or an interesting destination. What makes for a great house-sitting experience?
The connection with the homeowner and the pets. Here in Guanajuato, the elderly German couple were at first very cautious taking us on for the first time back in 2017, but we developed a real friendship. We were able to introduce fellow sitters to them each year following, saving them time interviewing lots of potential sitters and giving them peace of mind. The relationship has built over 4 years and they have generously offered us their city apartment free of charge anytime we visit (if we’re not house-sitting at their big house).
Often travel experiences that are stressful or confusing in the moment turn into great (sometimes funny) stories later. Can you share some particularly unusual situations you found yourself in? Have there been any disasters?
We endured a low category hurricane last September on the Baja California Sur. Other than needing to do a big clean-up, we just had to keep the dogs close by and comforted. We’ve been in the Caribbean through hurricane seasons a few times but have thankfully not had any major storms to deal with. Fellow house-sitting friends haven’t been so lucky, particularly through Irma a few years back. Their tales are scary to hear, but the upside is that the homeowners had people in their homes not just for the pets, but to minimize storm damage where possible.
As for an unusual experience, we once arrived into Costa Rica to start a sit where the homeowner had already left. The location was a 4-hour drive from San Jose, so her friend drove her to the airport, then waited for us to drive us back. That friend then handed us over to another friend who drove us up to the jungle location. We arrived just at dusk and were left to find the hidden keys and walk in to meet three dogs and one cat with a note telling us each of their names.
We got to drive a 4-wheel ATV to go to the grocery store and run the dogs – it was so much fun! When we left, we missed meeting the owner again. This was the only time we didn’t get to do a video interview so we had no idea what the homeowner even looked like until we were in her home seeing her photos on the walls. It took another six months until we were traveling from Panama by land back through her Costa Rican village that we finally got to meet.
That experience was in our first year of house-sitting and made us realize the amount of trust exchanged in this unique service-based way to travel. It fills our hearts and reminds us we are, indeed, all one.
Do you always have your next house-sit booked before the current one ends or do you take time off in between to enjoy a destination without responsibilities?
I'd prefer to talk about the solo travelers in our wonderful community rather than our unique situation as a couple who started traveling with just $300, no credit & savings (kinda silly, yes!).
Normal people don’t usually do what we did to get started. We had to book back-to-back and did it super intuitively. But for our solo traveling friends, it’s each to their own. Some love to go back-to-back with bookings like we do, others do it in stints, especially if they work online or are travel influencers.
There are solo sitters who like to explore and take adventures, then come ‘home’ to the comfort of a house sit where the internet is good, the kitchen is fully stocked, and laundry can be done with ease. It provides a sense of relief from the pressure of travel so they can get their content created, work done, or project finished.
As for the sitters who have a home base, once they get started and find a location they enjoy, they quite often book in advance and return for repeat sits year after year. Many of our Canadian friends do this, including a 76-year-old solo traveler who loves summer in her Canadian hometown and winter in Mexico in the San Miguel de Allende or Lake Chapala areas where she has a number of homeowners she sits for regularly.
There’s no rule book to follow, everyone can find their own flow.
What is one piece of advice you can offer for a solo traveler embarking on their first house-sitting gig?
I'll share lots more tips and advice in my Solo Traveler Insiders speaker session, but one thing I suggest is to find your boundaries by stretching them where you can. For example, if you're someone who loves getting out each day to explore the destination, you might think you only want to house-sit with cats as they require less attention. But why not say yes every now and then to a sit with a small dog who loves walking? You don’t have to do it all the time but having a stint like that is a great way to meet locals while out walking what are often four-legged people magnets.
The biggest tip I can give is to start gathering your references. It’s surprising just how many of us have actually done some form of house-sitting even without formally calling it that.
Gather references from former landlords, tenants, employers, and friends who’ve visited your place and can talk about how you keep your home and care for your own pets or theirs. You can never have too many references and it will give you some added confidence when sending off your first application to a stranger whose prize possessions you will be entrusted with.
It’s such a rewarding experience that I really hope more people get to have, especially solo travelers, because you get to meet your neighbors, get local insider info, and you can contribute to local economies more, not just the tourist towns.
There are so many aspects to enjoy – why not give it a go?
For a limited time, you can click here to get a free copy of Jodie's book, International Housesitting: How to Travel the World and Stay Anywhere for Free.
Solo Traveler Insiders Speaker Profile: Lisa Rankin
Lisa Rankin was our guest for the Solo Traveler Insiders Speaker Series on Bastille Day in July. When you become an Insider you will receive access to video recordings of this and all our previous speaker sessions.
Several years ago, when I was preparing for a trip to Europe, a good friend virtually introduced me to Lisa Rankin, a Canadian who had followed her dream to Paris, thinking that we would have a lot in common. How right she was. Lisa invited me to join one of the food tours that she was leading in the Saint-Germain-des-Prés district, and a friendship was born! To this day, it remains one of the best food tours I have taken anywhere and Lisa is one of the loveliest people I have met in my travels.
Lisa is the founder and operator of the award-winning Flavors of Paris, sharing local, Parisian tastes and experiences with thousands of clients from around the world. In July, she was our guest in the Solo Traveler Insiders Speaker Series. I interviewed Lisa to find out more about her, her tours, and life in Paris.
As a Canadian expat, you are living out your dream of living in France. Tell us a bit about how that came to be. Why Paris?
I was at a crossroads in 2011. My marriage ended, and I wasn't happy in my job. I felt stuck and needed to find a new direction.
As a little girl, I had read the Madeline books and became a Francophile, even though I would not have known that term back then. I love the French language, French art and architecture, and French food and wine. I had visited Paris a couple of times as a youth, both times on my own, and I soaked up enough of the city while I was there. So, in 2011, I decided I didn't have much to lose. I packed up four suitcases and headed to Paris to try to make it by launching my own walking tour company called Flavors of Paris.
Moving to another country is a very different thing than being a traveler. What was it like to be alone in Paris in the beginning and navigating everything you needed to get settled?
It was a little overwhelming at first. I didn't really know anyone here and didn't have any friends. It was daunting, but I kept reminding myself that it would change. I joined social groups to start making friends, and Facebook groups where I could ask questions, as well as asking questions of people I met.
The cheese lady at the market, where I now take clients on the Flavors of Paris Original Tour, sort of adopted me and she helped me in so many ways. For example, one day I was not feeling well and I needed some medication. When I saw her at the market, she took me to the pharmacy, explained my malady to the pharmacist, and requested the medication that I needed. Once I felt better, she took me to her family doctor to introduce me and get me added to his list of patients. I love her to this day for all the help and support she provided.
Have you done much solo travel since you moved to Paris?
It's funny. Before moving to Paris, I traveled more often. When I was 18, I had saved my money working after school and on weekends and used it to travel through Britain and Europe on my own for six and half months. I had the time of my life!
I have family in Canada, the United States, England, Ireland, and even Australia. They are not travelers so usually when I have the time or the money to travel these days, I end up going to one of those destinations.
Before the pandemic, I was planning to take some smaller trips to explore more of France. It is such a beautiful and diverse country. I will pick up those plans in the near future.
What was life like in Paris during the pandemic?
This is a big question. We endured three lockdowns of varying degrees. Certainly, it was much quieter, especially when we were under orders to stay at home. This was probably more strictly enforced here than in many places in North America. At times, in order to leave our homes, we were required to fill out a declaration form which could be demanded by police at any time. We were allowed out for one hour per day and could not go more than 1 kilometer from home, except in specific circumstances. I will share more about this and answer questions in the Solo Traveler Insiders Speaker session next week.
Now that things are beginning to open up, you will be returning to offering your award-winning tours! When we first met, I took your original Flavors of Paris tour. You now have several other options. Tell us about what you offer.
I started Flavors of Paris with just one tour. The Original Flavors of Paris tour is still our most popular one. However, clients started asking if I had additional tours. Many of them come back to France, so I have repositioned Flavors of Paris as tours that now address your other senses, not just taste. We offer a day trip to Monet’s home and gardens, a tour specifically for those with a sweet tooth, a guided food shopping excursion, a food tour in the Marais district, and a tour with a professional perfumer who will guide you on a quest to discover your signature scent. In other words, we offer a full sensory experience to visitors to Paris.
Do a lot of solo travelers take your tours?
We get a mix of people on our tours. Solo travelers, couples, and families. They are perfect for solo travelers because the groups are small. We stop a lot for the tastings and it is always a convivial atmosphere.
Can you share a Paris insider tip for solo travelers visiting the city of light?
I would say to become a flaneur and don't be afraid to get lost. Flaneur is a French word for someone who wanders or strolls about. Paris is the perfect city for that. Don't pack your schedule too tightly and give yourself time to discover some little local gems, which lie around every corner.
Paris is the perfect walking city. Geographically speaking, it's not very large. It is full of fascinating little boutiques, food shops, cafes, and private art galleries. There is stunning architecture everywhere you turn.
If you find that you have no idea where you are, there is always a metro stop nearby, which is a great way to orient yourself. You can always turn to technology by uploading the app that I and all the local Parisians use called Citymapper. You just plug in the address you want to get to – say, back to your hotel – and it will show you where you are and how to get back by walking, public transport, Uber, or any other available mode of transit.