Eating alone does not mean that you are lonely.
It doesn't mean that you don't have any friends or are unhappy.
Yet those are the concerns of people who don't want to eat alone. They feel that they appear one or more of these ways to those around them.
They think there is a social stigma associated with eating alone.
They feel it and they don't like it.
Even some diehard solo travelers find dining alone difficult. It's #3 in the top “7 Things You Don’t Love About Solo Travel”.
If you're one of those who love solo travel but dislike solo dining, I have a few tips for you. Tips that will hopefully turn the eating alone experience upside down – making it a highlight of your solo travels..
Eating Alone: Casual Dining
If fine dining is not your goal, you just want a good meal, you have lots of options. And because casual places are more frequented by people on their own, there really is no social stigma attached.
- Indie coffee shops. Check out their menus online before you go. The food options are sometimes few but the food is often exceptional. Plus, in coffee shops, the lone person is the norm.
- Communal tables. Choose casual restaurants or cafes with communal tables and it's likely you'll end up in a conversation with a local. To find such restaurants use a website like Yelp and put “communal table” in the Find box and your destination in the Near box. Up will pop restaurant options with tables for sharing.
- Choose a cafe or patio. When you have the world to look at and people to watch, you won't feel nearly so obvious for eating alone. Enjoy the food and the city buzz.
- Street food/food trucks. The food truck and street food scenes are no longer the cheapest, fastest food possible. In some cases the food is exceptional as the vendor specializes in just one or two things and does them very well. Yet, still, with low overhead, the cost is reasonable. You'll often find picnic tables nearby for communal eating. If you're in North America go to Roaming Hunger for current information on where to find food trucks in dozens of cities.
Dining Alone for Food and Wine Lovers
Sometimes the goal is to experience the food of a restaurant you've been reading about. Sometimes its a wine experience that just can't be had at home. Here are ways to eat alone and enjoy comfortable, fine dining experiences.
- Focus on your food. Going to a restaurant on your own allows you to really focus on your food. Savor every mouthful. Enjoy the chef's artfulness in the menu, unusual combinations, and presentation. Discuss them with your server. Ask for the sommelier to recommend wine pairings. Experience your dinner to its fullest.
- Choose a restaurant and eat at the bar. Even in a fine dining establishment, the bar is a more casual place to eat than at a linen-covered table. I often meet people at the bar and have interesting conversations. I've even had my dinner bought for me after such a meeting.
- Choose the lunch hour. A fine restaurant has the same executive chef for the more casual, less expensive noon hour as it has in the evenings. It's likely a more relaxing time for dining alone.
- Take a food tour. A food tour will take you to the best a city has to offer. You will typically enjoy local wine and specialty foods along with a half dozen or so other travelers. You will leave the tour satisfied and having had a fun, social afternoon.
Solo Travel and Eat with Locals
Everyone wants company now and then, even solo travelers. How does a solo traveler find social dining experiences? Here you go.
- Take a cooking class where everyone shares a meal at the end. Cooking schools are a wonderful opportunity to learn about a culture through its food, develop new skills, meet people who share your passion for food, and share a meal with new friends at the end.
- Find a chef's table. A chef's table is usually off to the side of the main kitchen at fine restaurants. I've eaten at two chef's tables and in both cases there were over 8 people at the table. Some knew each other and others didn't. We were served by the executive chef and sommelier who made special plans for the dinner based on seasonal food. Chef's tables are fun, social, and very comfortable for solo travelers.
- Dinner with a local. Eating in the home of a local is an amazing experience. There are a few sites that will help you book dinner with a local. Try VoulezVousDiner or EatWith. If you are going to someone's home, give them the same consideration that you would a friend. Tell them of any allergies you may have, bring a small gift, arrive on time and don't stay too late, drink moderately as this is an expense they are incurring, and contribute to the conversation without monopolizing it.
- Join a foodie meetup. If you want to have a meal at a restaurant with locals go to Meetup.com, choose your destination city, and look for a food and wine group. There are often many food and wine meetup groups in a city. Hopefully there will be an event you can join when you're in town.
Do you have other suggestions for how to make dining easy for solo travelers? Please share your tips in the comments below.